Summarize this content to 2000 words in 6 paragraphs A woman who refused to attend her friends’ wedding after she was asked not to bring her partner has been applauded by netizens.The 44-year-old woman and original poster (OP), Reddit user MongooseMission528, shared her story on r/AITAH, explaining that last year, she and her 43-year-old partner had been invited to their friends’ wedding, which is set for this October.”I’ve known both of them for many years,” the OP noted, “so naturally, I’d be bringing my partner as my plus one.”However, the OP was recently stunned when they received an email asking that the OP attend without their current partner to “avoid any potential drama from the past”—namely, because the OP’s ex-girlfriend would be there.This came as a shock, especially since the OP’s previous relationship had ended amicably, and both parties had long since moved on.
Stock image of a woman holding a wedding invitation.
Stock image of a woman holding a wedding invitation.
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The OP wrote, “My partner and I have been together for five years, so this isn’t some short fling. We’ve built something real and solid, and I think it’s absurd that at our ages (we’re all in our 40s and 50s), the couple would feel the need to make such a request.”It seems rather inconsiderate, and my partner, who’s always been supportive, even thinks it was a bit of a backhanded decision. She suggested I go without her, but I know it’s been bothering her.”I ultimately decided not to attend the wedding. I made it clear to the couple that this was an event I wanted to share with my partner, and if they’d rather have me attend without her, I simply won’t be there.”I had no idea my decision would cause such a stir. The couple was genuinely shocked that I declined the invitation, and they expressed disappointment, saying they thought I would be there for them on their special day.”But in all honesty, if this is how they were going to handle the situation, it wasn’t the kind of support I was prepared to offer.”
The OP’s stance was applauded by Redditors, with one writing, “I don’t know why they would say that knowing you had your partner for years. And I don’t think you would be the one causing drama.”Another noted, “An invitation is not a summons. They can choose not to include your partner and you can choose not to go. They made their choice and you made yours.””This isn’t middle school, it’s a wedding,” one Redditor remarked. “If your ex can’t handle seeing you happily coupled up, that’s on HER, not you or your partner.”According to a wedding etiquette guide from Trademark Venues, excluding a long-term partner from an invitation is considered poor form. Traditionally, those in committed relationships—especially ones lasting years—are expected to receive a plus-one.However, wedding traditions have shifted in recent years. Rising costs and the desire for more intimate gatherings have led some couples to limit plus-ones. In one article by Newsweek, wedding planner Abby Lee suggests that guest list decisions should be handled with sensitivity, as exclusions can lead to unintended arguments.
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