Summarize this content to 2000 words in 6 paragraphs A man has been backed by social media users after sharing why he chose to end his marriage.On January 28, /u/shoddy-armadillo-312 said in a post on Reddit that he had overheard his wife discussing a secret plan to leave him after securing a new job.The revelation prompted him to file for divorce, and many Reddit users praised the poster for leaving the relationship after discovering the deception—with the post receiving more than 8,800 upvotes.The poster said that last year, his wife, who had been working as a labor and delivery nurse, told him she wanted to switch specialties and train to become a cancer nurse. He supported her decision, even as her return to school placed additional responsibilities on him.He said their workload balance shifted from being shared equally to him taking on 80 percent of the household duties to accommodate her reduced hours and study commitments.However, four months into her education, he came home early and overheard a conversation between his wife and her best friend, in which the friend asked “how she could manage to stay married and keep up the pretense,” he wrote in the post.His wife admitted that she stayed in the marriage only because she needed the poster’s financial and emotional support while completing her training. Without it, she said, she would not have the time or resources as a single parent to pursue her goals.”Her friend said it would all blow up in her face when I realized and she said she didn’t care,” the poster added.Newsweek contacted /u/shoddy-armadillo-312 for more information via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case.Rachel Marmor, a licensed mental health counselor and the chief wellness officer at the PAIRS Foundation, told Newsweek: “Marriage is meant to be a partnership built on honesty, yet here, deception took root. When one person secretly plans an exit while expecting the other to continue giving, it creates an emotional betrayal that is difficult to mend.”The poster said he decided to confront his wife the evening after overhearing her conversation with her friend.”I told her the marriage was over and I was not going to be used until she got what she wanted,” he wrote.He said he left their family home, which he had lived in prior to their marriage, because her name was on the deed and he was concerned for their children.”I didn’t want my kids to live in a conflict ridden home,” he wrote, adding that the divorce had been hard on them. “Their mom hates me, their grandparents and aunts and uncles hate me, they’re not allowed to talk about me around them,” the poster continued.The poster said his wife and her family accused him of being selfish, with his in-laws saying he should “understand that a woman has the right to ensure her stability before ending a marriage.”Marmor said his decision to leave the marriage was not a selfish act but a form of self-respect.”No one owes their spouse unconditional support when it is built on deception,” she said.Redditors have also backed the poster for drawing a firm line under the relationship.”She has a right to leave a marriage whenever she deems fit and for whatever reasons she has. But so do you,” one user wrote. “I find it interesting that their problem is not trying to fix the marriage but to make you her doormat now for her comfortable future…Not yours…Hers.””It’s not even soaking him financially. It’s dragging out a relationship she doesn’t want to be in, to use it for benefits. So he’s asked to stay in a relationship where he isn’t loved, while she goes to college,” another added.”You’re not obligated to remain in a relationship just to be taken advantage of,” a commenter said, adding, “If I were your lawyer, I would have advised you against leaving the home and against adding a spouse to an asset you owned before marriage.”Marmor said the former couple’s focus should now be on minimizing harm to the children.”The true measure of healing will be in how both parents choose to model love, honesty, and respect moving forward,” she added.Marmor said shifting the focus from resentment to responsibility could help the couple rebuild stability for their children.She continued, “The marriage may be over, but the family endures.”
A man walking away from a woman.
A man walking away from a woman.
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