Warren Kozak, a New York City-based author and essayist, recently released a book titled “Waving Goodbye: Life After Loss” in April 2024. The book delves into Kozak’s personal experiences and struggles following the death of his wife, Lisa Krenzel, to cancer on January 1, 2018. Kozak shares tips and inspiration for others who may be dealing with similar situations, including advice on getting affairs in order, writing wills, and leaving instructions for peace of mind for loved ones. His book sheds light on the broader reality of loss in America, with statistics showing millions of widowers and widows in the country.
Kozak emphasizes the transformative nature of loss and how it impacts individuals in profound ways. He stresses the importance of preparing personal and financial matters while one is well and lucid, as it can greatly benefit the family in the future. The author notes that while time may heal some wounds, the loss of a spouse can permanently change a person. Despite initially not expecting to write the book, he felt compelled to share his experiences and insights to help others navigate the grieving process and find solace in the aftermath of loss.
Drawing from his own daily diary and vivid memories of life with his wife, Kozak reflects on both the good and difficult times they shared during her illness and eventual passing. He found traditional books on grief written by psychologists, grief counselors, and clergy to be challenging to read in the midst of his trauma, leading him to craft a more accessible and personal narrative in his book. Through the inclusion of emails received during his grieving period and poignant reflections on his emotional journey, Kozak offers a raw and genuine account of the grief process.
The author highlights the fundamental ways in which grief changes individuals, noting that even years after his wife’s passing, he still experiences moments of intense emotion and tears. He acknowledges the evolution of his identity and the significant impact of loss on his sense of self. Kozak’s Jewish faith plays a crucial role in providing comfort and solace during his darkest moments, serving as a source of strength and resilience. He also explores the role of technology in coping with loss, particularly in preserving memories through videos and photos of loved ones.
“Waving Goodbye” is described as a short, easy-to-understand book with practical advice and personal anecdotes that offer insights into the process of grief and healing. Kozak’s reflections on the impact of loss on his relationships, identity, and daily life provide a candid and relatable perspective on navigating the complexities of bereavement. The book is designed to serve as a source of inspiration and guidance for those facing similar challenges, emphasizing the importance of community, support, and self-care in the journey towards healing and recovery. Available for purchase on Amazon and other retailers, “Waving Goodbye” offers a poignant and heartfelt exploration of life after loss.
