A new survey by Talker Research, commissioned by Talkspace, has explored how men in the U.S. bond, confide, and maintain relationships with their friends. The survey found that men in America have an average of five “general” friends, three close friends, and two best friends. Men feel comfortable using terms like “bro” and “homie” when referring to friends, but only a small percentage would refer to someone as their “bestie.”
Men invest an average of four hours per week maintaining their friendships, with activities such as texting, phone calls, direct messaging, and in-person hangouts. How men stay connected varies by age group, with Gen Z and millennials often playing video games together, while Gen X and baby boomers prefer watching sports. The Silent Generation favors dining out as a way to keep in touch.
Friendships are particularly important for men, as many feel unable to confide in friends about their problems. Having someone to talk to is crucial, especially considering that men are more likely to die by suicide than women. Men discuss a variety of topics with their friends, including hobbies, religion, spirituality, and life plans. Many men feel comfortable sharing their deepest feelings with male friends, with younger generations expressing greater ease in doing so.
While the number of friends that men have decreases over time, many report that the quality of their friendships has improved. However, a significant portion of men experience loneliness on a daily basis. Only 17% of men feel highly satisfied with their social lives, with millennials reporting the highest fulfillment and baby boomers reporting the least. Talkspace’s chief marketing officer emphasizes the importance of fostering real connections and providing a space for honest conversations and vulnerability.
The survey highlights the need for progress in addressing loneliness across generations. Providing support for friends and fostering meaningful connections, especially in person, is crucial for better mental health. It is important to check in on friends and provide a space for open conversations. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, there are resources available such as the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, Crisis Text Line, and 988lifeline.org.
