Pastor Jesse Bradley of Grace Community Church in Washington believes American dads are being told damaging lies about fatherhood that they must reject to raise their children well. He emphasized that replacing lies with truth is powerful and can set fathers free from mental traps. With Father’s Day approaching, Bradley shared three lies that need to be eliminated for fathers to be the best parents possible.
The first lie Bradley discussed is the false message that fathers can’t be good dads, which can be debilitating and burdening. He encouraged men to let negative experiences motivate them to become better fathers and to not let their past define them. Bradley emphasized that God is a healer and a Father to the fatherless, offering love that endures forever. He also advised fathers to learn from other men who can fill the void left by absent fathers and to believe that they can be the father they never had.
Another damaging lie Bradley highlighted is the idea that it’s fine to be an independent dad, which can lead to isolation and shallow relationships. He explained that humans are not made for solitude and that all individuals need God and other people in their lives. Bradley warned against retreating to a “man cave” as a refuge, pointing out that relationships may be messy at times but are worth investing in. He emphasized that connecting with family can bring many fruits and that no dad wants the legacy of being distant from their loved ones.
The third lie Bradley discussed is the belief that being a father is not that important, emphasizing that fathers have a unique role that should be cherished and prioritized. He encouraged dads to enjoy their kids, connect with them daily, listen to their fears, and create meaningful memories together. Bradley highlighted that being a father involves various aspects – relational, intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual – and advised dads not to bring ‘leftovers’ home after work. He emphasized that being grateful and intentional as a father can lead to profound joys of fatherhood.
In conclusion, Bradley urged fathers to reject the damaging lies about fatherhood and embrace the truth in order to be the best parents for their children. He emphasized the importance of seeking guidance from God and other men, investing in relationships with family, and cherishing the unique role of being a father. By prioritizing their children, connecting with them daily, and being intentional in their parenting, fathers can experience the profound joys of fatherhood.
